Relationship Tips

From my past relationships, I’ve learnt a couple of things:

1. There’s no point making promises about the future when you’re not even sure if you can even keep them.

2. Don’t buy anything that would label you as a couple (e.g. rings, shirts, bracelets) until you’re engaged.

3.  No point making plans about the future or even thinking about it until you’re self-sufficient and 99% sure that the person is right for you.

4. Be ready to be hurt but don’t be sceptical about it.

5. Don’t try to change a person but that doesn’t mean you should accept EVERYTHING about him/her.

6. Don’t stay together with someone who has cheated on you. That is inexcusable. You deserve better than that.

7. Be together with someone who loves you more than you love him/her.


2010 → 2011

I don’t usually do this but somehow this year is an exception.

And for the first time in 6 years, I’ve decided to come up with four resolutions for 2011, which will be mentioned later.

I was never really a believer of resolutions but I realized we all need goals in our lives otherwise, we won’t really get anywhere. It’s true!

Anyway, this year was really a year of favour for me.

I’ve been blessed so much in so many ways.

1. I graduated. Finally.

2. I went to Sanggau for three months. I never knew I could get so attached to children.

3. I got into the Masters in Managerial Psychology program. Can’t wait to start! (Can’t believe I just said that but really, I am quite excited about doing my Masters. Challenges are healthy.)

4. I bought my first Raybans.

5. I bought a new car. A good one with low mileage. Definitely God’s blessing.

6. My parents lined up for me for nearly 11 hours so that I could get my Blackberry Torch when I was away in Indonesia. So undeserving of such love.

7. My birthday was awesome. I was prayed for by the children and everyone of them asked God to find me a husband so that I could get married quickly. Lol! Plus, I got mangoes on my birthday which I was craving for but decided not to buy.

8. I got a new bag, three pair of shoes/sandals, four and a half rings.

9. I found the button of my blazer on the car porch after losing it for more than 3 months. So random that it can only be God.

10. My relationship lasted 3 months with long distance. In my opinion, we did really well regarding that it was a pretty smooth sail for us. I actually thought we were going to have a difficult time so it was a really good surprise that it worked out really great!

There are many more things to be grateful for because God has blessed me so much this year. Even though, there were the obvious ups and downs but this year (particularly this year), the blessings have overflowed like madness and all I can think of is God’s goodness and faithfulness in my life.

I know God has many things in store for me  for 2011. I believe that God will provide me a good job with a good salary. All I need to do is be patient and be devoted to God.

I think I can do that.


So if you haven’t guessed yet? My 2011 resolutions are:

1. To get good recognition and reputation in my future job and company.

2. To do well consistently in my Masters program.

3. To work out, exercise more, and to have healthier eating habits so that I will continue to lose weight.

4. To be really really close to God and to be a better cell leader.

I am sure I will be able to conquer and meet all those goals as long I’m focused and my eyes are only looking at Jesus, books/notes, work and weight. =P

Anyway, I love all of you guys!

May you have a blessed 2011!

If 2010 was a sucky year for you, don’t fret because it’s a freaking new year!


We’re all in this together and we’ll make it through!

Just don’t let go of my hand and I won’t let go of your’s! =)

I love you alllllllllllllllllll!!! I really really do!

Muax and Hugsssssssssssssss!!!



I don’t know why I’ve been acting bipolar lately.

I’m moody.


Angry with myself.


Wanting to be alone.

Wanting to be wanted.

Wanting to not be responsible.

I think I’m going crazy.

I honestly don’t know what’s happening to me

and I’m tearing up now for no apparent reason.

What is wrong with me.

I really hope I’m ok.

Things are slowly sorting out themselves.

It’s no longer about confusion and insecurity about the future.

It is probably about the clouds that my parents are placing above my relationship.

I can be happy.

I am grateful for so many things.

In fact, I wanted to write a list of things I’m grateful for this year 2010.

But now, I just want to hide in my room.

Watch The Lovely Bones again

and rock myself to sleep.

I really shouldn’t be like this.

I just don’t want any trouble when it comes to love.

The Heart

is a funny, complicated, silly thing.

It makes us impulsive.

It makes us irrational.

It makes us ecstatic.

It flutters.

It breaks.

It heals.

I’ve seen it a million of times before.

A friend of mine broke down and started crying in college because he was looking through a blog he and the ex created.

I still remember what he said when we tried to encourage him to eat.

“I can’t. It just taste like rubber bands.”

He impulsively booked a ticket to Melbourne/Tasmania to see her after his Work&Travel USA.

He asked our friend to help him apply for a tourist visa.

When he came back from USA in Sept, he had a change of heart.

His heart healed.

What happened to the plane ticket?

What happened to seeing his ex-lover?

And now, he’s posted up pictures of another girl.

My point is the first month is always the hardest.

It will get easier.

Sooner or later,

you will find someone else.

A replacement.

Better or not, that’s what you should be concerned about.

But when you do, examine your heart and analyse whether your ex-lover is still inside there

because there’s no point damaging another person’s present heart condition,

who’s ready to surgically open his/her’s and give what’s left of it to you.

You’ve been there.

We’ve been there.

It hurts even more when the heart is in two places.

It doesn’t work that way.

You’re not the one winning this time.

Ok. Yes, I gossip.

All girls do.

But please don’t treat me like I’m some spy or some CIA Agent.

How many decades do I have to prove myself to you.


I think we, Christians, have the highest probability of disappointing people because naturally, people expect more out of us since we are suppose to be good, kind, giving, patient, etc. Basically, Christ-like.

(Keynote: Christ-like. Like Christ.)

If a Buddhist gets agitated easily, it’s nothing because he/she probably had a bad day.

If a Muslim is not fasting, how could you judge a hungry person.

If a Atheist is being rude, that’s normal because all Atheist are cynical.

And you can’t even condemn a Hindu, because anything they do wrong is a norm and is taken as a cultural lesson.

So here we are, judging Christians, our own kind – per se.

We can tell people what makes us different is having Jesus in our hearts but our actions could say likewise.

And then, we’re looked upon badly.

But WE all forget that we are ALL sinners.

All of us!

Just that, we are saved by grace.

So what does that really mean?

Do we understand the depth of that meaning?

Do we hold it in our hearts forever?

It is something that sounds so simple

but it is impossible to comprehend what God has really done for us.

We could never step into his sandals.

And you know what?

Sometimes, I wish that was possible for some missionaries so that they will stop boasting about the number of contractable diseases they’ve attained when really it’s nothing compared to what God has done for us.